Father-Son Canoe Trip

It can be hard to build relationships between fathers and sons, especially if there are obstacles like mental health issues, lack of time or resources, or not knowing how to connect.

Recently, our campers were really excited to welcome their dads to join them on an overnight canoe trip. The boys were thrilled to show off their skills and knowledge to their dads. And for the dads, it gave them a chance to see into their son’s world, to understand them a little better.

They set out in the sunshine, but it didn’t take long for wind and rain to find them. Even with the adversity, they kept going. One dad put a garbage bag on as a rain coat. When they had to portage, all the dads chipped in and helped each other. With varying levels of physical ability and experience, it could have been a struggle. It was a great model for the boys, who often talk about helping each other in the group.

When they arrived at their campsite, it was time to set up tents and the cooking area. Everyone had chores, just like everyday life at camp.

The boys showed their dads how to set up the tents, something they’d done many times on their previous canoe trips. It was neat to see the boys take a position of leadership with their dads, sharing the skills they’d gained.

Rain, sun, wind, and a rainbow!

They cooked their food, along with some pike the boys and their dads caught. The boys don’t usually catch pike, so it was a nice treat for everyone.

Before the trip, Ron asked the boys and their dads to think about something they love or appreciate about each other. That night, at the campfie, they went around the circle. Each boy said something he loved about his dad, and each dad said something he loved about his boy. With the light of the stars above and the warmth of the fire at their feet, each person heard words that affirmed them and showed them their value.  

The night was cold, down to 2 degrees Celsius. Most people got some sleep. And then dawn came, lighting the mist as it rose over the lake. They could warm themselves around a fire as they watched the day begin.

Some hopped on the lake for some early morning fishing.

After eating breakfast, they went for a hike before packing up and canoeing back to camp.

The canoe trip was a chance for the dads and their boys to spend intentional time together. Dads have a huge impact in the lives of their sons. The fact that the dads stopped their regular routines and entered their sons’ world meant so much to each boy. Even if canoeing wasn’t their first love, they came anyways. One dad said, “Son, you are the only reason I am on this trip; I would not do this for anyone else.”

The boys were excited about the chance to show off their wilderness skills to their dads, and it gave dads the chance to learn from their sons and gain new respect for them. The conversations around the campfire gave dads and their sons the start of positive conversations that will continue throughout their lives.

For many men in our society, it can be hard to put words on things, especially when strong feelings are involved. The first time you try to say something, it can be clumsy, but practice makes it easier the next time. Taking time to practice skills like this builds stronger bonds between fathers and sons.

At Crane Lake Discovery Camp, we don’t just help boys; we also come alongside their families. At first glance, it’s just a canoe trip. But really, it’s investing in fathers and sons and helping them strengthen their bonds.